Collaboration with Dr.Cornelius Grove

Hi Friends,

This year has been filled with uncertainty, but with the possibility of life easing back to normal, many parents are looking for ways to continue furthering their child’s education. Today I’m teaming up with Dr. Cornelius Grove to bring you an insightful look at education in a time in which the pandemic is still present.

Parents and Educators: Both Can Help Children Attain Academic Heights

Brooklyn, NY, May 5, 2021 — Children who arrive at school with an emotional commitment to learn are ideally equipped to excel academically. A second factor in their learning success is the set of values that guides the lessons they’re taught during their most impressionable years (preschool–grade 5). These are among the insights of Dr. Cornelius Grove, who has spent decades exploring the cultural factors that affect children’s performance in classrooms.

Consider Dr. Grove’s 138-page book for parents, The Drive to Learn: What the East Asian Experience Tells Us about Raising Students Who Excel. Here he explores the ways in which East Asian parents instill in their children respect for academic knowledge and receptiveness to the formal learning process. After a seven-chapter explanation of cultural values underlying East Asian parents’ mindset, he offers three chapters revealing their specific supportive practices. It’s an outline for action for American parents who deeply value academic learning. 

A Mirror for Americans: What the East Asian Experience Tells Us about Teaching Students Who Excel, is the 148-page companion volume to the above book. Dr. Grove examines the school side of the learning equation. East Asian lower-grade lessons gain the advantage because of their tenacious, narrow, yet multifaceted focus on the day’s topic. He addresses, among other things, how East Asians regard teaching and the reasons for pupils’ math superiority. Choice magazine (June issue) “highly recommends” this book for “general readers through faculty.”

“People who’ve had experience in unfamiliar cultures often remark that they now see their own culture with fresh eyes,” Dr. Grove explains. “It’s as though they’ve looked into a mirror and seen alternative possibilities for themselves. They realize that their usual ways of doing things are not etched in stone; instead, they’re choices. Different choices could be made.”

Although each book effortlessly stands alone, The Drive to Learn and A Mirror for Americans combine to encourage complementary reassessments by parents and lower-grade teachers about the more impactful roles they could be playing in upgrading the academic performance and the eventual college readiness of the youngest Americans.

For more detailed overviews, visit TheDriveToLearn.info and AMirrorForAmericans.info.

Author Cornelius N. Grove holds a Master of Arts in Teaching degree from Johns Hopkins and a Doctor of Education from Columbia. He has had a decades-long fascination with the cultural factors that affect children’s ability to learn in school. At a 2005 conference in Singapore, he spoke about the two instructional styles found around the world. In 2013 he wrote The Aptitude Myth: How an Ancient Belief Came to Undermine Children’s Learning Today, a historical study of why most Americans believe that inborn ability determines school performance. For two recently published encyclopedias (2015 and 2017), he wrote entries on “pedagogy across cultures.” And now with A Mirror for Americans and The Drive to Learn, he is revealing the complementary roles home and school play in strengthening children’s academic capabilities.

The Drive to Learn: What the East Asian Experience Tells Us about RaisingStudents Who Excel 

Publisher: Rowman & Littlefield (Lanham, Maryland)

Hardback: 978-1-4758-1509-2

Paperback: 978-1-4758-1510-8 

eBook: 978-1-4758-1511-5

Available from Amazon.comRowman.comBarnesandnoble.com and other booksellers.

A Mirror for Americans: What the East Asian Experience Tells Us about TeachingStudents Who Excel 

Publisher: Rowman & Littlefield (Lanham, Maryland)

Hardback:      ISBN 978-1-4758-4460-3

Paperback:    ISBN 978-1-4758-4461-0   

eBook:            ISBN 978-1-4758-4462-7 

Available from Amazon.com, Rowman.com, Barnesandnoble.com and other booksellers.

Why EQ Beats IQ in Driving ‘True’ Leadership Success

Hi Friends!
I know you all love positive, inspiring people and today I’m teaming up with Merilee Kern to bring you her fabulous article about success.

By Merilee Kern, MBA

brain-3017071_640.pngIn many ways, being an effective leader boils down to your ability to influence people—a proficiency that is driven by one’s emotional intelligence (EQ). Leadership is more about soft skills—the ability to inspire, persuade, guide, sway and communicate in a way that’s “heard” rather than just “listened to”—than it is about being the best relative to hard skills.  As a leader, if you do not understand your team’s motivations and feelings, you will never be able to establish an optimally-functioning team and reap the copious rewards related thereto. The result is needless opportunity loss. 

To become more adept at such soft management skills, leaders can actively work to improve their EQ. This effort includes—and actually starts with—understanding your own emotions and triggers. What motivates and demotivates you, evokes feelings of stress or satisfaction, compels you to go “above and beyond” or not participate at all?  You can conduct these inner exploration exercises on your own in a journal or daily walk, perhaps, while some leaders amp up the effort by conducting self-assessments with a coach, mentor or therapist.

1631951246.01._SCLZZZZZZZ_SX500_.jpg“If you are to lead with maximum efficacy, you must build an enthusiastic following,” notes leadership authority Andrew Wyatt, author of the new book, “Pro Leadership: Establishing Your Credibility, Building Your Following and Leading With Impact.” “This requires relational and people skills as well as all of the related soft skills that contribute to one’s EQ. And, a leader cannot staff EQ out. You must to have it yourself. Those who don’t will need to develop it to realize truer and more unencumbered success.”

According to Wyatt, whose eponymous companydevelops leaders worldwide through coaching, speaking, training and consulting, the good news is that everyone can develop their EQ. Unlike IQ, which pretty much is what it is, EQ can be nurtured, developed and increased. Below are a few excerpted insights from Wyatt’s book on why EQ matters to leadership, how to lead amid different EQ/IQ types and developing your leadership EQ—both in your organization and within yourself.

Why EQ Matters to LeadershipPro leaders must have the ability to influence others to follow them, and the most important ingredient in influence is relationship. The key to a winning relationship is winning the heart, and doing so is not possible without EQ. You may have a high IQ and natu­ral giftedness in your vocation, but if you are unable to influ­ence others—you may be effective as a manager—you will never be a leader.

Remember, leadership is about people, and people will fol­low with their head for only so long before they eventually grow weary and peel off or fade away. But if, through your rela­tional abilities, they feel your love and care for them, they will follow you even when times get tough. That is why it is vital to your leadership to allow your EQ to lead.

But EQ alone won’t be enough. In fact, it must be balanced with IQ. Although IQ is not a natural leader attribute, and as a result is best relegated to the back seat, it is important to the success of any enterprise. Your role as leader will be to balance both EQ and IQ, to manage the balance and tension between the two. That balancing act will be manifested through how your team works together.

Recall that EQ builds companies and IQ builds products; it is not possible to have one without the other. At the same time, one is not valued over and above the other. Although the theme of this lesson is to let your EQ lead, that does not make it more valuable than IQ—both are required to win.

3 Types of PlayersWhen filtering for EQ and IQ, there are three categories of people you will find. I have worked with, followed, or led all of these: EQ dominant; IQ dominant; and EQ/IQ flexible. A strong culture, organization and team will have all three types of players on their roster. Where the two dominant types will normally be position players, most pro leaders will be flexible. Let me explain.

To be great a company, you must add value through offering a great product. IQ builds products. People who are IQ dominant have high IQs—a natural gift that, when applied, results in great products that add value to people’s lives. Consider the advances in medicine, science and technology. None would have been possible without the work of IQ-dominant people.

To successfully lead an IQ-dominant player, you will need to first satisfy their intellect through a clear and rational articulation of your vision and strategy. Next, they need to be enlisted in forming the tactics you will employ to accomplish the strategy. Since they are the product designers, they will want to have shared ownership of the product before they follow your lead and buy into your vision. Once you have satisfied their intellect, you are free to win their hearts.

The second player type is the EQ-dominant individual. This person is also a position player. You will most often find them in advertising and creative positions, client service, marketing and sales—critical roles if a company is to be successful. Rarely will they build a product, but their EQ is invaluable in product development, specifically in refining products in order to bring forward the product the market is demanding. These individuals are valuable because they understand the basic truth that no one has ever bought anything; they are sold on something.

To lead EQ-dominant players, a leader must always start with the heart. You must offer a creative vision and strategy and they must see you as the courage behind the plan. They want to be led, from their heart to their head. And while you must appeal first to their creative side, you may not ignore their rational side because that is where their fears exist. As their leader, they will naturally look to you for courage and to help them overcome their fears.

The third type of player on your roster will be what I define as EQ/IQ flexible. Every great leader I have met or studied fell into this category. The defining characteristic of this person is her ability to balance EQ and IQ—specifically, having the ability to discern which attribute needs application to a particular circumstance and to execute the proper timing of the use of the attribute. In athletics, this is called hand-eye coordination. All athletes have it to one degree or another, and the degree to which they do is what separates the amateur from the professional. EQ/IQ flexible personalities have the ability to walk into a room and immediately judge the chemistry, while subsequently activating the attribute most suited to the current environment. Whether a board room or a lunchroom, they are comfortable in both environments because they have the ability to adapt instantly to each environment.

This is my personality type and, as a result, I find these people the most difficult to lead. Nevertheless, to lead EQ/IQ personalities effectively, start with their heart by appealing to their deepest motivations. But don’t stop there. You will need to follow with the logical argument as you clearly build your case. If you win them to your cause, they will become your greatest ally because they will naturally become spokespersons for that cause. However, this is a two-edged sword. If you lose their trust—or if they simply do not accept your vision and the mission—it may hinder their work. In the end, these personalities are a strong proof-source that the true measure of leadership is influence—nothing more, nothing less.

Developing EQ in Yourself and OthersSetting an EQ standard starts where every other cultural development begins, with leadership. That would be you. Based on the principle you read about in the last chapter, to develop a culture-wide EQ you will need to start with yourself, beginning with your attitude toward the people you are leading. As humans, we naturally favor ourselves. That means, if I am an EQ-dominant person, I will naturally be drawn to other EQ-dominant people. The same is true for the IQ-dominant person. This is fine for friendships. However, favoring one trait over the other in your organization will create a culture of favoritism, resulting in dysfunction caused by this imbalance. As the leader, it is critical for you to have no favorites, with the ability to defend both camps.

Developing EQ among your leadership team is a necessary activity of pro leadership. These leaders realize they cannot succeed alone. As John Maxwell astutely commented, “If you want to go fast, go alone; if you want to go far, go with others.” The extent to which you foster EQ among the members of your inner circle is the extent to how far your leadership team will go. To do this as a leader, you will need to start at the same place you did with your cultural EQ: your attitude. Leadership development of any type is a process, not a destination. It is a journey that never ends. When you stop developing, you stop growing.

No matter what your own EQ level is, ongoing personal development is always important. Read all you are able to find on the topic. Second, if you don’t have one, consider working with a coach. Third, join a peer group or start one yourself. It is true that iron sharpens iron. Developing EQ is not a solo sport, you will need to have some people to rub up against. Leadership is a lonely business; you need to have someone to talk to, a safe environment to share and people who will tell you the last 10 percent—that bit of information most people won’t tell you.

“IQ builds products, but EQ builds companies and followings. So, as you step out today to lead, let your EQ lead the way,” Wyatt urges. “Develop your EQ, your culture’s, your team’s, and your own. Do so, and you will have taken a big step in developing your following and your pro leadership abilities, putting yourself in a prime position to be able to motivate the people you lead.”

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Forbes Business Council Member Merilee Kern, MBA is a brand analyst, strategist and futuristwho reports on industry change makers, movers, shakers and innovators: field experts and thought leaders, brands, products, services, destinations and events. Merilee is Founder of “The Luxe List” and Host of the nationally-syndicated “Savvy Living TV show. A prolific business and consumer trends, lifestyle and leisure industry voice of authority and tastemaker, Merilee’s work reaches millions worldwide via TV (her own shows and others) as well as throngs of print and online publications. Connect at www.TheLuxeList.com and www.SavvyLiving.tv www.Instagram.com/LuxeListReports  /www.Twitter.com/LuxeListReports / www.Facebook.com/LuxeListReports www.LinkedIn.com/in/MerileeKern.







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Why EQ Beats IQ in Driving ‘True’ Leadership Success

By Merilee Kern, MBA

brain-3017071_640.pngIn many ways, being an effective leader boils down to your ability to influence people—a proficiency that is driven by one’s emotional intelligence (EQ). Leadership is more about soft skills—the ability to inspire, persuade, guide, sway and communicate in a way that’s “heard” rather than just “listened to”—than it is about being the best relative to hard skills.  As a leader, if you do not understand your team’s motivations and feelings, you will never be able to establish an optimally-functioning team and reap the copious rewards related thereto. The result is needless opportunity loss. 

To become more adept at such soft management skills, leaders can actively work to improve their EQ. This effort includes—and actually starts with—understanding your own emotions and triggers. What motivates and demotivates you, evokes feelings of stress or satisfaction, compels you to go “above and beyond” or not participate at all?  You can conduct these inner exploration exercises on your own in a journal or daily walk, perhaps, while some leaders amp up the effort by conducting self-assessments with a coach, mentor or therapist.

1631951246.01._SCLZZZZZZZ_SX500_.jpg“If you are to lead with maximum efficacy, you must build an enthusiastic following,” notes leadership authority Andrew Wyatt, author of the new book, “Pro Leadership: Establishing Your Credibility, Building Your Following and Leading With Impact.” “This requires relational and people skills as well as all of the related soft skills that contribute to one’s EQ. And, a leader cannot staff EQ out. You must to have it yourself. Those who don’t will need to develop it to realize truer and more unencumbered success.”

According to Wyatt, whose eponymous companydevelops leaders worldwide through coaching, speaking, training and consulting, the good news is that everyone can develop their EQ. Unlike IQ, which pretty much is what it is, EQ can be nurtured, developed and increased. Below are a few excerpted insights from Wyatt’s book on why EQ matters to leadership, how to lead amid different EQ/IQ types and developing your leadership EQ—both in your organization and within yourself.

Why EQ Matters to LeadershipPro leaders must have the ability to influence others to follow them, and the most important ingredient in influence is relationship. The key to a winning relationship is winning the heart, and doing so is not possible without EQ. You may have a high IQ and natu­ral giftedness in your vocation, but if you are unable to influ­ence others—you may be effective as a manager—you will never be a leader.

Remember, leadership is about people, and people will fol­low with their head for only so long before they eventually grow weary and peel off or fade away. But if, through your rela­tional abilities, they feel your love and care for them, they will follow you even when times get tough. That is why it is vital to your leadership to allow your EQ to lead.

But EQ alone won’t be enough. In fact, it must be balanced with IQ. Although IQ is not a natural leader attribute, and as a result is best relegated to the back seat, it is important to the success of any enterprise. Your role as leader will be to balance both EQ and IQ, to manage the balance and tension between the two. That balancing act will be manifested through how your team works together.

Recall that EQ builds companies and IQ builds products; it is not possible to have one without the other. At the same time, one is not valued over and above the other. Although the theme of this lesson is to let your EQ lead, that does not make it more valuable than IQ—both are required to win.

3 Types of PlayersWhen filtering for EQ and IQ, there are three categories of people you will find. I have worked with, followed, or led all of these: EQ dominant; IQ dominant; and EQ/IQ flexible. A strong culture, organization and team will have all three types of players on their roster. Where the two dominant types will normally be position players, most pro leaders will be flexible. Let me explain.

To be great a company, you must add value through offering a great product. IQ builds products. People who are IQ dominant have high IQs—a natural gift that, when applied, results in great products that add value to people’s lives. Consider the advances in medicine, science and technology. None would have been possible without the work of IQ-dominant people.

To successfully lead an IQ-dominant player, you will need to first satisfy their intellect through a clear and rational articulation of your vision and strategy. Next, they need to be enlisted in forming the tactics you will employ to accomplish the strategy. Since they are the product designers, they will want to have shared ownership of the product before they follow your lead and buy into your vision. Once you have satisfied their intellect, you are free to win their hearts.

The second player type is the EQ-dominant individual. This person is also a position player. You will most often find them in advertising and creative positions, client service, marketing and sales—critical roles if a company is to be successful. Rarely will they build a product, but their EQ is invaluable in product development, specifically in refining products in order to bring forward the product the market is demanding. These individuals are valuable because they understand the basic truth that no one has ever bought anything; they are sold on something.

To lead EQ-dominant players, a leader must always start with the heart. You must offer a creative vision and strategy and they must see you as the courage behind the plan. They want to be led, from their heart to their head. And while you must appeal first to their creative side, you may not ignore their rational side because that is where their fears exist. As their leader, they will naturally look to you for courage and to help them overcome their fears.

The third type of player on your roster will be what I define as EQ/IQ flexible. Every great leader I have met or studied fell into this category. The defining characteristic of this person is her ability to balance EQ and IQ—specifically, having the ability to discern which attribute needs application to a particular circumstance and to execute the proper timing of the use of the attribute. In athletics, this is called hand-eye coordination. All athletes have it to one degree or another, and the degree to which they do is what separates the amateur from the professional. EQ/IQ flexible personalities have the ability to walk into a room and immediately judge the chemistry, while subsequently activating the attribute most suited to the current environment. Whether a board room or a lunchroom, they are comfortable in both environments because they have the ability to adapt instantly to each environment.

This is my personality type and, as a result, I find these people the most difficult to lead. Nevertheless, to lead EQ/IQ personalities effectively, start with their heart by appealing to their deepest motivations. But don’t stop there. You will need to follow with the logical argument as you clearly build your case. If you win them to your cause, they will become your greatest ally because they will naturally become spokespersons for that cause. However, this is a two-edged sword. If you lose their trust—or if they simply do not accept your vision and the mission—it may hinder their work. In the end, these personalities are a strong proof-source that the true measure of leadership is influence—nothing more, nothing less.

Developing EQ in Yourself and OthersSetting an EQ standard starts where every other cultural development begins, with leadership. That would be you. Based on the principle you read about in the last chapter, to develop a culture-wide EQ you will need to start with yourself, beginning with your attitude toward the people you are leading. As humans, we naturally favor ourselves. That means, if I am an EQ-dominant person, I will naturally be drawn to other EQ-dominant people. The same is true for the IQ-dominant person. This is fine for friendships. However, favoring one trait over the other in your organization will create a culture of favoritism, resulting in dysfunction caused by this imbalance. As the leader, it is critical for you to have no favorites, with the ability to defend both camps.

Developing EQ among your leadership team is a necessary activity of pro leadership. These leaders realize they cannot succeed alone. As John Maxwell astutely commented, “If you want to go fast, go alone; if you want to go far, go with others.” The extent to which you foster EQ among the members of your inner circle is the extent to how far your leadership team will go. To do this as a leader, you will need to start at the same place you did with your cultural EQ: your attitude. Leadership development of any type is a process, not a destination. It is a journey that never ends. When you stop developing, you stop growing.

No matter what your own EQ level is, ongoing personal development is always important. Read all you are able to find on the topic. Second, if you don’t have one, consider working with a coach. Third, join a peer group or start one yourself. It is true that iron sharpens iron. Developing EQ is not a solo sport, you will need to have some people to rub up against. Leadership is a lonely business; you need to have someone to talk to, a safe environment to share and people who will tell you the last 10 percent—that bit of information most people won’t tell you.

“IQ builds products, but EQ builds companies and followings. So, as you step out today to lead, let your EQ lead the way,” Wyatt urges. “Develop your EQ, your culture’s, your team’s, and your own. Do so, and you will have taken a big step in developing your following and your pro leadership abilities, putting yourself in a prime position to be able to motivate the people you lead.”

~~~

Forbes Business Council Member Merilee Kern, MBA is a brand analyst, strategist and futuristwho reports on industry change makers, movers, shakers and innovators: field experts and thought leaders, brands, products, services, destinations and events. Merilee is Founder of “The Luxe List” and Host of the nationally-syndicated “Savvy Living TV show. A prolific business and consumer trends, lifestyle and leisure industry voice of authority and tastemaker, Merilee’s work reaches millions worldwide via TV (her own shows and others) as well as throngs of print and online publications. Connect at www.TheLuxeList.com and www.SavvyLiving.tv www.Instagram.com/LuxeListReports  /www.Twitter.com/LuxeListReports / www.Facebook.com/LuxeListReports www.LinkedIn.com/in/MerileeKern.







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Cracker Barrel Collaboration

Cracker Barrel mail does not disappoint!

What if you were able to select the perfect gifts, package them and send them to someone you care about without ever leaving the Cracker Barrel website? I’m teaming up with Cracker Barrel to share the cutest care package! Perfectly curated gifts for special occasions are definitely where it’s at. Cracker Barrel has put together the best spa day/relaxing gift for me & I promise you…All of the items will make a relaxing day that much better! Know of someone you’d like to surprise? Head on over to Cracker Barrel & purchase a gift basket. You will not be disappointed!

Sperry Collaboration

I can’t even begin to tell you how excited I am to share this collab! I’m teaming up with Sperry to bring you a review of the John Legend Holiday Edit collection for Sperry. Think fashion forward, bright colors, affordable prices and comfy shoes in a collection! I will be sharing again on Instagram later in the month, but until then I’m going to share a few pictures here!

Under $100 Gift Suggestions for her.

I know no one wants to read a huge paragraph before selecting gifts, so I have put together some posts where you can buy various gifts by using my links. As always, we appreciate when you use our links or DM us for discount codes when we have them. The commission isn’t huge, but it helps us maintain our blogs. So, think of us when you make your purchases. We spend a large amount of time getting together content for you, so your support is always appreciated. We pretty much have links to all of the stores you purchase from on an every day basis. We love helping you find great deals!

So, without further delay… Here’s a great gift guide for fun, trendy outfits!

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My Magazine is LIVE!

Classyandchic Gems Magazine is here!

Whew! My labor of love is complete and while there’s a few mechanical things I want to change next month…I’m so pleased to be doing exactly what God told me to do. I mean, I have a WHOLE magazine! Next, your girl will have a PODCAST!

Never in my wildest dreams would I have imagined that God would choose me to do this. I’m a Counselor, not a Graphic Designer.

The best thing about all of this is, my family and friends knew exactly what this magazine meant to me and they prayed for me throughout the entire process. I am blessed to be sharing my testimony, creators are sharing their gifts and God is being glorified. I can’t say I didn’t question why I never minored in Graphic Design in college, haha! But, overall this has been such a blessing to me.

Instead of releasing a magazine with only my articles, God showed me to share the talents of others in the first couple of issues. Isn’t it amazing to be walking in the will of God? I love the way God shows us to be obedient to His will and He will take care of the rest.

Your sweet messages throughout this process have made this heart of mine so full. Encouraging souls need to be encouraged at time, as well. So, thank you! Be sure to head on over to my magazine Instagram @classyandchicgemsmagazine and share it with your friends! God is so good!

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Lyda Beauty-Cleopatra Cat Eye Stamp Eyeliner Collaboration

Vegan, Cruelty Free and Gluten Free… Clean cosmetics are definitely a must have for me. My skin is sensitive, so it’s so nice to try a brand knowing that their ingredients are not harmful. If you’re like me, winged eyeliner is a look I love to create, but I don’t always have the time when I’m in a hurry to get out of the house. I am teaming up with Lyda Beauty because they have the perfect solution for an every day beauty hack. They’ve put together an eyeliner and a stamp to give you the perfect Winged Eyeliner look. Whether you’re a beginner or an expert, this eyeliner is for you! Be sure to check out Lyda beauty when you’re looking for an innovative eye product that will not break the bank.

Lyda Beauty Eyeliner

World Mental Health

Mental Health Professional, Boutique Owner, Speaker, Writer and Fashion Blogger-Anita Ford

Happy Sunday, friends! Yesterday was World Mental Health Day.As many of you know I’m a therapist. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling and Psychology. I love sharing about my field, but most of all I am blessed and humbled to be able to serve in a field where I have an opportunity to give people the tools to make their lives better. I figured there’s no better time than now to release the second chat in my Mental Health Matters series.

Tonight I am talking about social media and the effects comparison and competition have on the human psyche. I believe social media is be a blessing and a curse. Social media is a blessing because it’s nice to be able to connect with people all over the world. But, unhealthy thinking starts when a person begins to compare their lives to people they see on social media. You see perfectly curated feeds, gorgeous houses, beautiful relationships, pretty clothes and flawless skin, but you don’t know what a person had to walk through in order to get where they are. The problem with social media is you only see a person’s highlight reel. You never see the raw, messy moments that have transformed someone into the person you see today. After viewing other people’s lives on a daily basis, it’s easy for comparison to set in. Once comparison sets in, it’s easy for a person to experience a downward spiral of emotions that often alter self esteem and self worth. But, the truth is, your mind was never meant to be in constant comparison with the next person. Comparison often creates anxiety, low self esteem, anger, jealousy and even hate towards people you know nothing about.

So, how does a person overcome feeling as if they don’t measure up? You have to allow joy and peace to inhabit your space. Live in a space where you treat people well. Live in a space where you are secure within yourself. If you love yourself, you treat people the way you would like to be treated. Often times, if you don’t love yourself, you treat people poorly. You have to realize that you are valuable just the way you are. You are brave. You are smart. You are talented, and you are not a mistake.

Comparison is the thief of joy. My prayer is that you look in the mirror every morning and know that you matter to God. Here are 6 amazing “I Am” statements I wrote as a reminder for you to remember that you are treasured.

I am enough.

I am brave. Everything I’ve been through has made me into a beautiful person.

I am unique.I refuse to let the world change me.

I am strong.

I am capable.

I am loved.

Living someone else’s life won’t make me happy.. I choose to live out the life that was planned for me!

Stay tuned for another Mental Health Matters chat tomorrow…

MaeLove Skincare Collaboration

Hey Friends!

If you’re like me, you’re always searching for products that are cost effective and truly make a difference in your every day routine. I’m someone who tries different skincare routines to provide you, my friends with options that are available in every price range. So, I’ve got a skincare line that I must tell you about.

I’m someone with problematic skin. Over the years, I’ve had cystic acne, chickenpox pigmentation, and scarring that I have tried several different avenues at home, spas and dermatologists offices to fix. Before the pandemic started, I was getting Glycolic Acid peels for my skin and I had seen great improvement in the scarring. Well, here we are and the pandemic is still going on, so I have made the choice not to return to the spa at this point. So, I needed a skincare routine that would give me at spa results at home. Little did I know, Maelove was going to reach out to me and send me some of their products soon.

Friends, when I tell you these products work… I have truly seen a difference in my skin! I use Maelove products day and night. I am not someone who tests a product one day and reports back about it. I enjoy being authentic with my audience, so I am continuing to use Maelove products until the bottles run out and I will replenish my skincare routine with more MaeLove products after that. I will report back again in two weeks to tell you about the products and my results. But, for now, here’s a look at some of the products I’ve been using.

Reviewing MaeLove Skincare Products